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I played guitar a little in high school and even joined a band for a few weeks, but I didn’t know enough songs and was asked to leave.

I took my guitar to college and played occasionally with dormitory friends, but never expanded my ability.

After getting married, I decided in my mid-20s to learn to play the banjo.

My dad once mentioned that if he had learned an instrument, he would have chosen the banjo, which may have influenced my choice.

I took a few lessons, bought my first banjo, and practiced 10 to 15 minutes daily after work.

It became a therapeutic way to relax after work and then engage more with my family.

I rarely played with others, thinking I wasn’t good enough.

I was a closet player.

One of my first teachers, an accomplished banjo player and teacher, gave me Scott Joplin’s “The Entertainer” during my third lesson.

That song is not good starter material.

It has several distinct parts, all different and challenging to play.

I always kept it in the background of my practice routine but never mastered it.

My playing has taken a more serious turn over the past six years.

Though I played on and off for many years, I never accomplished the banjo and never came out of the closet.

I was too afraid I wasn’t good enough.

In my business background, I have spoken to business owners in the aerospace industry, sometimes with audiences of over 500 people.

Public speaking was initially frightening, but as time passed, I became comfortable with it, learned speaking techniques from Toastmasters International, and enjoyed the experience.

After semi-retiring, I told my wife and family I wanted to learn to play with others and even attend jam sessions.

Getting out and playing with others has been a frightening but gratifying experience.

My first time at a jam session was painful for me, but the group was warm and encouraging.

I played pretty easy songs, but timing and consistency were missing.

The group kept pushing me to come back.

The best way to learn is to play with others, but I was afraid and never would go out.

However, since starting, I have joined a bluegrass group, played in a band, and now perform at retirement centers and churches with a group called “The Red River Roses.”

I am also now relearning the guitar.

Playing music is a gratifying part of my life, bringing relaxation and new friendships.

If you’ve ever felt the pull to pick up an instrument again or to play more openly, I encourage you to take that step.

Remember, embracing lifelong learning and sharing your music with the world is never too late.

Call to Action:

Share your musical journey!

Whether you’re a closet player or a seasoned musician, your story can inspire others.

Join local music groups, participate in online forums, or connect with fellow musicians on social media.

Let’s create a community where we can all learn, play, and grow together.

After 45+ years, I have finally learned to play “The Entertainer.”  (Click and see for yourself)

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